“I was able to truly take an emotional inventory of myself and apply it to my current situation with my partner. Beforehand, I was not being vulnerable. It was difficult to be honest with myself and my partner about my feelings for him. I was afraid of being hurt. But after working with Melissa, I was able to see that being vulnerable opens so many more doors than closing myself off did.
Melissa was so honest and encouraging. I felt at ease discussing my personal relationship with her and never felt like she was just “telling me what I wanted to hear”. She even followed up with me a few days after our conversation via email! Melissa is very genuine and insightful. I’m thankful for the opportunity to work with her!”
Your emails have been SO insightful for me!!! I can’t thank you enough, Melissa! I’ve already learned so much and feel more empowered about my role in this relationship. So much of what you’ve said has deeply resonated with me. I totally appreciate all the links you provided for extra help. It really means a lot to me that you took the time to do that for me. Your last couple of emails have been great eye openers for me. I love that you pointed out that even though I can’t control the situation, there are other things I can control. I’m a big control freak and now that I know where to let go and where to focus, I can be much more productive! I really do want to better myself and that relationship, so that when the divorce is over we can have an even more fulfilling relationship. I’m so thankful I reached out to you! This is totally something I never do, but I’m beyond happy that I did! Thank you again for everything! You have been a huge help!
Wow!! Thank you, Melissa, what a great reply!! I tried to do the friends thing with him but it was too hard so I’ve stopped contact with him to allow me to move on, he still doesn’t want a relationship nor will change his mind so I need to stop moping and get on with my life, as hard as it is at times. Thanks again for a really amazing reply!
Thank you so much for responding back to my email. I really appreciate your time in answering my questions! I read everything on your blog over the weekend and found it very helpful, not only in giving me insight for the situation I was in, but also giving me insight into my own self. You’re really great at being empathetic, gracious, and truthful in your communication, as well as avoiding extreme judgments or assigning blame. You also are clear that the reader takes full responsibility for their own actions and make powerful decisions in the process. It’s very empowering. Thank you so much again!
You have this way of cutting through all of the madness to make it all come together so clearly. I was reading this nodding my head and then I got to the part at the end about changing what it means to love and I was blown away by the realization that in my 2-month relationship with my recently divorced man, I basically kissed his butt constantly out of fear that if I didn’t, he would walk away. I made him dinner, I stocked his favorite soda in my fridge, I swallowed my anger when he cancelled plans on me — yet he really didn’t do all that much for me. While I did enjoy doing nice things for him and I loved his company, I realize now that I was essentially trying to earn his love and attention. I knew that something just didn’t feel right, but I couldn’t put my finger on exactly what it was — and now it all feels so clear.
I don’t want to be in a relationship where I have to earn love! I don’t want to have to tiptoe around my true feelings or sacrifice my requirements to keep a man in my life. I want to be real and authentic, and I will wait to find a man who can give that to me.
Thank you for everything you do, Melissa. You are amazing!
As I am in a relationship with a divorced man, I’ve read SO many articles about it. It was very difficult for me to accept that he has a son and an ex wife,but at the same time he is the most wonderful person in the world and he made so many sacrifices for me. You are the only one who truly made me realise how to behave in that kind of a relationship. I can’t be more thankful ,you saved my relationship with this great man , and made me realise how happy I actually am.
THANK YOU, you are really amazing.
I never thought I would do something like [taking Melissa’s course on Empowered Dating] but I really enjoyed it and found it very valuable. I found it empowering, and it gives me hope that I can take the steps I need to have the life, the special relationship, that I truly want. The course gave me different ways and tools to look at myself and previous relationships that helped me understand better what I need and expect from a successful relationship and how to better achieve that. As well, it enabled me to look inward and evaluate myself with more clarity. With clearer understanding and expectations, the road may not be without bumps but there is a destination at the end.
Melissa launched an amazing Dating Course!!
What she created should be taught to everybody. Unfortunately none ever teaches us how to love, what it takes to have a successful relationship and why some people are just not compatible. Even if the idea of “love is all you need” sound very romantic and comforting, we should not forget that there is more than only one component in a relationship. If we’d all know who we are, what we want for ourselves and what is important to us, we would be able to avoid a lot of pain. I highly recommend Melissa’s Empowered Dating Course, not only to someone who is not sure about their relationship but to everyone who either had, has or is planning on having a romantic partner. It really is not only about Love and relationships but about getting to know yourself a lot better.
Melissa is so thoughtful, thorough, and receptive. She created a wonderful safe space to explore truly important issues. I was surprised by how much I had been taking for granted. The things I want are so real and deeply felt, but I had not taken the time to ask myself the simplest questions about the details. I found that it was really a combination of everything that made [the course] so valuable – the one on one sessions, the visualizations and other exercises, and the varied resources Melissa provided and tailored to my needs.
Melissa, Just want to thank you again for your amazing coaching. You REAAALLY helped me. I’ve been so stuck on how to progress with the web copy. You asked me all the right questions to help me come up with a plan of action that I can actually manage. In the process, you reinvigorated my excitement about launching my business. You’re a brilliant coach, and my personal go-to resource for getting “unstuck.”