Hi, welcome to HappyHealthyRelationship.com, which is all about helping you find and create the relationship that you truly want and deserve.
In addition to being a writer, wife, and stepmom, I’m also a certified dating and relationship coach and I specialize in working with women who are in a relationship with a divorced or divorcing man or dating a single dad.
When I was dating a divorced man and when the relationship was getting more serious, I was facing unique challenges that I didn’t know how to address.
- How should I be with his kids?
- What do I say when I meet his ex?
- What about when I meet his extended family?
- Am I really ready to commit to this relationship and become a stepmom?
- What would it mean for me and my life?
The dating and relationship advice that I tried to find online wasn’t very helpful–for my situation anyway.
There were very few resources out there that spoke to the specific experiences or challenges that I was going through as a woman in a pre-committed (dating but exclusive) relationship with a divorced dad.
And even the advice I found on relationship forums from other women who have been on this journey was extremely varied at best (and vindictive at worst).
I wanted to talk with my peers but my friends couldn’t relate; they were all dating never-married guys with no kids or had hard-lined opinions about dating a divorcee.
There were a couple of very enlightening books on dating the divorced man. But what happens after you read the books cover to cover? Each relationship is its own living, breathing civilization.
Many articles on the internet make broad generalizations about why you should or shouldn’t date a divorced man.
But, as you’ve probably experienced, there are lots of gray areas. And often times, reading a book or article can leave us with even more questions than before we started reading the book!
Plus, it isn’t the same as sharing your challenges to a listening ear and getting personalized guidance and support on overcoming challenges or making important relationship decisions when you feel stuck.
What I mean by Being Conscious in Our Relationships
You may be thinking “We’re living and breathing aren’t we? Aren’t we all conscious?”.
What I mean by “conscious” is being highly aware and going into our relationships with our eyes wide open.
Consciousness simply means awareness…and the more awareness that we have about our stuff, our man’s stuff, and whether our stuff will work out together…the better odds we give ourselves in this gamble called dating and relationships.
Making more conscious choices in our relationships leads to a life (and a partnership!) that is more aligned with what we truly want!
How Happy Healthy Relationship Can Help
I wanted to create a resource where women who are dating divorced man could find support when they needed it and learn valuable tools for relationship success.
Here are some ways you can get started:
- Subscribe to Happy Healthy Relationship and get articles that will help you gain clarity on tough relationship dilemmas
- Schedule a Relationship Clarity Session where you will get personalized guidance and support to create the relationship that you truly want
- Send a question to Ask Melissa! and I will answer your question on an upcoming blog post
- Connect with me on Twitter and Facebook and other community members who know what you’re going through
If we are suffering in our relationships, our whole life can feel off balance, especially when it comes to the relationships that are most near and dear to our hearts.
The good news is struggle and suffering are optional.
And I know from experience — being the stepmom of two teenage girls and a wife to an awesome man who makes it all worth it — that having a happy, fulfilling partnership is possible.
What I Believe
- We are the powerful creators of our own experience
- We can choose the relationships that we want
- Relationship and communication skills can be learned
- We are all worthy of love and respect just the way that we are; we don’t have to prove our worthiness
- The most valuable answers to our problems come from our own wisdom within
- We can learn how to hear and trust our own wisdom
- Everything happens for a reason; each relationship is a gift, if even in disguise
- Our past doesn’t matter so much as how we choose to move forward
- We always have choices, even when we think that we don’t
To your fulfillment in life and love,